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Ramblings of a queer girl: How Not to be Predatory: A Guide for Lesbian/Bi/Queer Women

a-world-without-shrimp:

thatqueerchick:

rogue-brainship:

gaymakeouts:

• Don’t ask a girl out unless you have a minimum of 15 character references attesting to her homosexuality and unless she has “gay” tattooed on her forehead. Otherwise you are preying on a straight girl.
• Don’t flirt with a girl unless she initiates it by walking up to you and saying “hello I am gay.”
• Don’t attend gym class at school because changing in the same locker room as other girls is a sure sign that you are being predatory. If you absolutely must attend gym class, either don’t change for gym and fail the class or keep your eyes closed the entire time you are in the locker room.
• Do not look at other girls, ever. This sets back feminism because by looking at girls while being attracted to them you are looking at them with the male gaze.
• Don’t compliment a girl on her looks. Don’t compliment a girl on anything at all because you could be complimenting her in a lesbian way and this is predatory.
• It’s probably best if you never leave the house.

This isn’t “arguing” with the post above, but just adding to the discussion about straight women’s perceptions of queer women:

When I was in eighth grade, I “came out.” (It wasn’t so much that I was ever in the closet; I just realized I was attracted to girls and probably at some point actually slowly grinned and said aloud, “Woah—I’m gay!”)

In English class, once, a girl sitting in front of me turned around and said, “Is it true that you’re a lesbian?” 

“Yeah,” I said. She squirmed a bit, and I said “Why?”

“It’s just kind of…I don’t know. It makes me uncomfortable. Like, are you gonna like jump on me or something?”

This had me stumped. “Why would I do that?”

“Because you like girls and I’m a girl.”

“But that still doesn’t make sense. I mean, do you walk around all the time thinking boys are going to jump on you just because they like girls?”

She didn’t say anything and just turned back around.

The moral of this story isn’t “I sure told that stupid girl,” it’s “Yes. Woman are constantly afraid that men are going to ‘jump on them’ because that’s how heterosexual sexuality is constructed.” “Rape culture” isn’t some unfortunate perversion of straight sexuality; it’s the norm. It’s the typical, mainstream state of heterosexual gender relations. That’s the heteropatriarchy.

That girl was threatened by me because she worried that maybe being a lesbian meant that I treated women the way that straight men treat women.

My emphasis.

Powerful.

This makes a whole not of sense.

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